Anyone who knows me knows I like to stay abreast of the latest news & trends on social
I got caught up last week with the hype around the Instagram's newest story feature: the "Ask A Question" button. Your followers ask you a question, you get to respond on your story, and I've got to say: it's going to help make the platform even more interactive. Even after the short time since the feature's roll out, I've been fielding questions and getting the chance to connect with even more of my followers!
If you're on Instagram, you also know that the story allows for 15 second clips (we all wish it were more, I know). While I answered most of them in the allotted time by video, one that was asked I knew would be challenging for me to answer in such a limited time-frame. The question was this:
How do you balance Fatherhood & Business?
The question put me in a deep state of thought. A fair question, I know that it’s a struggle for most to balance their needs at home with their obligations at the office, or in business. A good deal of my important life lessons came on the football field, and a great deal of those came from Coach Dungy. One thing he preaches is that your order of priorities while playing for the Colts should center around the 3 F's: Faith, Family, & Football. I actually have a movie being released with that sub title-- make sure you check out our trailer if you haven't already at Brackett.Movie!
While I'm no longer making tackles on a day to day basis, the lessons I gleaned on that field stick with me & I do my best to live them out every day. In my life today, I replaced the last F (football) with business.
The next lesson that the question brought to mind one of my favorite quotes "Begin with the end in mind". When I retired and started to decide on what my next professional move would be, I thought about staying in the Football space and getting into coaching, but knew it would take a toll on my family. After all, coaches travel as much as players & spend even more time going over film, building relationships with players, and solidifying strategies and schemes.
At the same time, I've always considered myself a business man and was enamored at the opportunity to build my own empire. I thought about the possibility of building a legacy for my family and the possibilities I pondered came to me because of my perspective: I was thinking with the end in mind.
Ultimately, I resisted my urge to Coach, my first passion, to pursue entrepreneurship. It may not have been my "first passion", but is something I am deeply interested in. It allows me flexibility. I get to create my own schedule and give stability to my family by not being moved around from job to job or place to place. I knew I wanted a goal in business that I could work diligently at and entrepreneurship has afforded me that opportunity. With the system we've been able to build (s/o to my AMAZING TEAM #BuildThePickle) I do not necessarily have to physically be at a location. I am always accessible for guidance & in case of emergency, but because we've built such a specialized team & reliable system, I am able to keep that flexibility I need for my family.
The second thing that I realized is that the question and use of the term "balance" implies that you should be equally distributing your time between the two. I’ve found is this is not necessarily the case-- or even possible for that mater. In most situations in life, you'll have to make a decision on what is most important to you at the time of resolution. After all, life doesn't take it's time waiting for you to be ready--it hits you when you least expect it!
What works for me adjusting my schedule based on the needs of the values most important to me: my family and my business. Simply put: I don't compromise, I prioritize. Depending on the situation, it could mean working 50-60 hours a week and being with my family a bit less (begrudgingly of course). At the same time, it doesn't mean I give up on being the best dad & husband I can be-- if anything, it forces me to answer the call to be even better! It means being ever-present when I am with my loved ones, and make those hours quality time spent.
One of the best philosophies from my coach is that your best ability is your availability. I am intentional about my time with my family and my business. I hope you can find the balance that works best for your lifestyle.